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No More Lonely People

We know what it feels like to be crushingly alone. Maybe if you’re like me being alone, as a choice, is your preferred way to spend time. Yet, when you’re forced to be alone even God seems to be miles away.  We then meet and make “friends” with Loneliness.  As Loneliness settles into various cracks and corners of our minds we sink deeper into the abyss with the surface fading fast.  This is the time to remember Christ is our eternal friend, who “sticks closer than a brother”. Christ can seem distant based on our feelings, but feelings aren’t absolute truth. 

Harsh as the above statement is when walking through loneliness, we need to hear it. Feelings are changeable. So how do we change how we feel? Change out routine for starters. Visualize loneliness as a starving, ravenously hungry monster just released from prison. To gather strength, it eats comfort food, easy to find comfort food (ex. the reasons why we’re lonely). Changing our thoughts isn’t what I’m talking about. I mean to take physical action to continue to starve our loneliness further beginning the process of freedom.

Ways to starve the “monster”:

  • Put down the phone.

Studies have shown social media increases a discontent in our lives. We don’t think about our browsing others’ lives deep enough until we look at our own page. We don’t have the smiling group, amazing cruise photo’s, our kids aren’t winning trophies like that etc. It has become routine for us to live in a digital backyard gazing longingly into the windows of other people. So, put down your phone and take a walk. Science has proven walking increase feel-good hormones.

  • Satisfy your curiosity.

All this method takes is a car, maybe coffee/tea if you’re tired, and the library. What has you curious, what have you always wanted to know more about? Distract yourself constructively while learning about what modern décor goes best with your star sign, how to defend your relationship to Christ, how to meal plan food with flavor, or how to draw 3D art. The world is your oyster!  

  • Volunteer

There are many causes needing (wo)man power to make the difference. Giving money is a start, but it’s a soul-lifting feeling to hands-on see what your hard work creates. If you attend church I can guarantee one ministry or another needs help. If you just donate some items and pass them out at outreach event you claimed a victory over the “monster”.

  • Take yourself on a date!

Is a concert coming up? A new restaurant you’ve wanted to try? Go do those things! You are an amazing person so don’t wait for someone else to tell you that! Treat yourself has become meme worthy, trivializing it, but take back what it means to love yourself and do what makes you happy! If eating alone is scary, order takeout from that new restaurant and sit in the park listening to a podcast (I suggest Rabbits).

My hope is this post is some help to those who are feeling lonely today. Know Christ is ever present and a whisper away. Take a chance today because you are awesome- I mean that.

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We need better Answers

Reading Forensic Faith by J. Warner Wallace lately, I’ve realized while I love Jesus I can’t defend my relationship to others in a transformative way. In a way that will impact their souls. On Forensic Faith’s website, a test asks you how you would respond to each question. You have 21 minutes to answer them.

Here are the questions:

  1. Why are you a Christian?
  2. What evidence do you have to believe God exist?
  3. Why do you trust what the Bible has to say about Jesus?
  4. Why would God send people to hell just because they don’t believe in Jesus?
  5. If God is all loving and all powerful, why is there so much evil in the world?
  6. If God is the creator of everything, who created God?
  7. Why would a loving God command the total destruction of all Israel’s enemies (including their children and livestock)?

I haven’t taken the test. I’m scared of my answers and I know I can’t answer them as I want to. Worst of all, those who don’t know Christ can better answer why they don’t believe, why they’re gay, why they think the government is out to get them, why aliens exist, and how science is the only “god” they trust. Even worse, I envy those who can stand up and make powerful leaders in my world follow them because they can answer why! Evidence, fake or not, is making a bigger impact than most followers of Christ. I want to change that.

How would you answer the above questions? Let me know in the comments or just share how you struggle as well to defend your faith in Christ. I want to show my love for Christ in this world. To sum up my point Mr. Wallace says it best, “We need better answers”.

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Enjoy the Journey, not the destination.

Practicing yoga is a fantastic method to blast away emotional barriers you’ve been experiencing. I love to focus on a few poses or just one that I want improve on. Like comparison for example. By breaking down the pose into various aspects I find a meditative state. Peace even.  Just like a yoga pose, we can get stuck on the end result, not the amazing progress we’re making. Seeing the big picture (or the full pose) can turn your dream into a nightmare.

Quotes like, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” while classic can make us look too far ahead. Enjoying our process and all those steps in between stop being fun. Moments throughout our journeys get lost, moments that shed light on the dark and the light side of who we are. Frankly, forgetting the miles from point A to point B is a sad way to approach our goals. Why not allow each pain, victory, and learning moment show us we are more than the box we put ourselves in?  

God has no limit and as His creation, we are truly limitless. He doesn’t leave us to walk our journey alone but guides us so we don’t lose our way. Trust in Him- walking with Christ will make sure we aren’t bored by the unique path we all walk.  

Journey meditation ( Nothing fancy)

 Connect with where you are in your journey. Don’t compare or judge yourself. Just appreciate the victories, many personal revelations, and challenges you’ve overcome. Imagine yourself on a  forest path if it helps to center you.

Faith Meditation

Start your meditation practice today by reconnecting your body and mind with an intention to breathe in faith and exhale doubts. Do a few rounds of this and go on to the next part.

After connecting with your breath, write down three examples of when your faith was made stronger because of something God did. Let your mind wonder over these examples without focusing or directing your mind to a specific event.

Allow yourself to just drift in this serene space feeling the love of God surround you. When your mind drifts outside your intention to breathe in Faith, go back to the example that keeps coming up strongly.  Dwell there. Don’t try to analyze it. Save that for later.

Once you are ready slowly open your eyes or sit up if you were lying down. Now that you’ve observed its time to analyze why one example stood out more than the other two.

Ask yourself:

  • What lesson did I learn?
  • How did God use that moment to show me more of who He is?
  • Who needs to hear how God moved in my life (my testimony)?

End with a  prayer of thanks and ask God to continue to guide you into an even deeper relationship with Him.

I would love to hear from you and any thoughts you may have. 

Blessings and Peace- Randa 🙂 

Disarming Failure

Disarming failure is like an escape room where you have all the puzzles but solving them seems overwhelming. At first. Digging deeper you begin to see how each puzzle is related and escape is possible! Of course, puzzles of the mind and soul are in a league of their own since we’re solving puzzles we can’t see. For example, our past fails can haunt us making sure we fail in our present moments-thus a vicious cycle begins. Escaping this cycle is simple: begin with the first puzzle.

 Yourself

We, human beings,  are the first puzzle. Each day begins with us making choices spanning mundane to life altering.   Some of those choices will lead to failure. You may miss a deadline on the job or lose an important relationship, but the clue is in the behavior. In personal habits that made sure we responded in one particular way. Claiming our part in how the end played out does wonders shedding light on how we can adapt to generate positive outcomes. Taking responsibility isn’t a fate worse than death since Christ is willing to help carry the weight and show us the path. All we have to do is ask Him.

 1st Puzzle Solution: Meditate on Success

We had a part in why a failure occurred, but WE ARE NOT A FAILUREs. Fear of failing will keep us trapped in a “game over” mode with no chance of escape. Take time to visualize success through meditation, write down what you’ll need so nothing is last minute- prepare to be the best so you will be.  Where our eyes look is where we go; look at your goals and don’t let fear hold you down as you are fearfully and wonderfully made.  God did not create us with no purpose in mind. Remind yourself daily that you have an impact to make on this earth! Trust God to lead you down scary, long, and exciting roads

Blessings and Peace Randa 🙂

No More Self-Doubt!

  We are forgiven in Christ as the first step into a new life of purpose. Yet we can be worn down by self-doubt when we linger in past mistakes. Bad choices will try to remind us of negative results as we try to climb out of the doubt and even try to convince us no greatness lies ahead. This is a waste of our time. The reason why is simple: We need to apply the lessons we’ve learned from our past to new challenges today. In God’s word, He states clear “I am about to do something new. (Isaiah 43:19)”. Join me as we learn how to disarm 3 traps that create self-doubt.

First trap that creates self-doubt: Idols

A short example of mine is a pastor I went to on guidance about a spiritual gift let me down when he didn’t take me seriously. When I was dropped and my seeking guidance treated as a joke I realized the pastor had been an idol to me.  God in chapter 44 of Isaiah says “Who is like me? Let him step forward and prove to you his power. Let him do as I have done since ancient times…”  He goes on to say “The person who made the idol never stops to reflect..” Reflection comes too late after the hurt when doubt has planted its seeds. 

Rooting our doubt takes time because continuing to pursue our goal seems pointless. We become deluded and think “If so and so had helped me I would be more confident.” Why let a human hold you back? God is our father, power source, and all loving creator who longs to see us do well. He has greatness in store for us if we will just choose to keep going. When doubt begins to nag at you try some of the ideas below to remind you that God is all you need to succeed and will send help when it is needed.

  • Write the promises of God on note cards to reinforce Gods word in your heart.
  • Pray for opportunities to prove those useless idols wrong and meditate on what your success looks like.
  • Try new techniques to create growth and have fun learning, don’t focus on the end goal. Enjoy your journey!
  • Make a list of I Am statements (ex. I am a daughter/son of the king,  I am powerful through Christ, I am loved by almighty God, I am equipped for success).
  • Know you are not alone in how you feel. There are tons of people who struggle with self -doubt.

Let me know in the comments or on Facebook how you combat self-doubt in your life. Join me again for how to disarm Failure. 

Blessing and Peace- Randa 🙂

The Saviour you need, not the Saviour you want

Christ has risen giving us victory over death today. Because of Christ sacrifice, we are given eternal life and a million second chances. While many of us know these basic facts, how many of us are readily available to admit God’s way is right in face of temptations we face and when our plans are frustrated? I know I need a lot of help in admitting Gods right only because I get what I need from God confused with what I want from God.

What we want and what we need are vastly different. This contrast is heavily seen when it comes to our prayer life.  Praying without ceasing can become ineffective if we treat our prayer time as rubbing a genie’s lamp. God is not granting wishes, He’s transforming us into His holy likeness which means we are denied the easy way every time. Praying for strength in our spiritual character means we will face situations to practice a skill we don’t possess.  

Think of it this way, we don’t grow when life is easy or when we get everything we want. Influences of the world around us make it harder because easy has become the goal for daily life. Easy commutes, easy ways to pay, easy ways to search… the list continues. As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard of living. We walk a narrow path that cleaves the unnecessary dead weight we don’t need to make room for the great blessings God has promised His people if they will abandon their way of life to following His footsteps.

Daily Challenge: Read the passages you do read normally, but read them as they are with no devotional tone. Allow the scripture to reveal who Christ really, not who you’ve been told He is or think He is. Or how you wish He were. Meditate and pray for God to reveal Himself to you.

Blessings and Peace :)- Randa!