Separate to Grow Closer

Separation anxiety affects mostly children yet teens up to age 18 (about 4-5 percent) can suffer as well. This type of anxiety is described as different” from normal clinginess. Children with the disorder can’t think about anything but the present fear of separation. They may have nightmares or regular physical complaints. ”  I’m sure each of us has experienced the panic or have had pets who made us furious because of their anxiety (separation anxiety can affect pets). However, I challenge you to re-think what separation anxiety means in your own life. What or who is keeping you from growing?  What lifestyle choices always pull up back in? Maybe it’s time to learn to separate and see you can stand on your own two feet.

As stated in a previous post, I know soda is bad for me.I’ve separated myself, but withdraw is painful. What comes to mind when you think about an area of your own life where you need to separate but pain will be involved? Sadly, our tribe, as its said nowadays, is a sum of who are or want to become. Thus, it pays to be careful who has access to your emotional currency and time. Both can bankrupt you when relationship boundaries are not clear. Separation is the answer for both parties to establish or reinforce boundaries if this is the case. Taking time out of the relationship does not mean your done, it means you care enough about the other person to work on yourself. To heal mentally from past damage to create a stronger relationship when reunited. As a disclaimer: I am not an expert but this method has worked for me in the past. Let prayer be your guide on any decision. 

Removing obstacles in our way to an abundant life using separation reveals true motivation hidden in our decision-making processes and lifestyle choices.  While researching for this post, I discovered I suffered from separation anxiety as a child when I thought I just loved my dad that much. Which is strange because we never really got along. A classic example of reveling true motive is with eating. Food becomes a place of comfort, not nourishment making the root of weight gain a distorted attitude toward food, not gluttony. The movie Tron: Legacy has a quote that sums up why  separating ourselves isn’t a punishment, but a retreat: “Take yourself of the equation.”  This means our answers to our problem is to separate from our regular pattern, to voluntarily take a step back. Again, we’re not giving up we’re trying to fix what is wrong- become objective. Be open to getting advice from trusted sources and pray about the areas we may have contributed to our own misery.

I haven’t met one person who enjoys being miserable and I’m sure you don’t want to be either. So in closing, I encourage you to “take yourself of the equation.” Create distance from what troubles you to get a battle plan together. I understand with people it can be hard to do so in that case, go on a weekend trip or visit family you haven’t seen in a while who can help you decide what to do next. You don’t have to spend 40 years in a desert to change your life. Embrace your anxiety to root out why blank causes you to be abnormally fearful of making changes. What has running gotten you that facing down your inner demons won’t? Distance will feel lonely but take comfort that no distance can separate from the love of Christ.

Blessings and Peace- Randa 🙂 

Image from up UnSplash.com taken by John Towner.

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