No More Self-Doubt!

  We are forgiven in Christ as the first step into a new life of purpose. Yet we can be worn down by self-doubt when we linger in past mistakes. Bad choices will try to remind us of negative results as we try to climb out of the doubt and even try to convince us no greatness lies ahead. This is a waste of our time. The reason why is simple: We need to apply the lessons we’ve learned from our past to new challenges today. In God’s word, He states clear “I am about to do something new. (Isaiah 43:19)”. Join me as we learn how to disarm 3 traps that create self-doubt.

First trap that creates self-doubt: Idols

A short example of mine is a pastor I went to on guidance about a spiritual gift let me down when he didn’t take me seriously. When I was dropped and my seeking guidance treated as a joke I realized the pastor had been an idol to me.  God in chapter 44 of Isaiah says “Who is like me? Let him step forward and prove to you his power. Let him do as I have done since ancient times…”  He goes on to say “The person who made the idol never stops to reflect..” Reflection comes too late after the hurt when doubt has planted its seeds. 

Rooting our doubt takes time because continuing to pursue our goal seems pointless. We become deluded and think “If so and so had helped me I would be more confident.” Why let a human hold you back? God is our father, power source, and all loving creator who longs to see us do well. He has greatness in store for us if we will just choose to keep going. When doubt begins to nag at you try some of the ideas below to remind you that God is all you need to succeed and will send help when it is needed.

  • Write the promises of God on note cards to reinforce Gods word in your heart.
  • Pray for opportunities to prove those useless idols wrong and meditate on what your success looks like.
  • Try new techniques to create growth and have fun learning, don’t focus on the end goal. Enjoy your journey!
  • Make a list of I Am statements (ex. I am a daughter/son of the king,  I am powerful through Christ, I am loved by almighty God, I am equipped for success).
  • Know you are not alone in how you feel. There are tons of people who struggle with self -doubt.

Let me know in the comments or on Facebook how you combat self-doubt in your life. Join me again for how to disarm Failure. 

Blessing and Peace- Randa 🙂

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In Defense of Being Single.

“You’ll change your mind when you meet the One.”, “You don’t want kids? That will change when you get married.”, “You don’t want to be alone do you?”,  and many other varieties of these phrases have been hurled at me since I’ve decided to stay single. And NO, I’m not choosing to stay single until my “prince” comes because God has prepared us both for the great journey of marriage. I choose to stay single because I want to.  If there is anyone out there like me I’m writing this to encourage the single to stay strong when well-meaning people offer their “advice”.

Family, friends, co-workers, etc. can’t help themselves because they don’t understand that singleness  isn’t a curse. They see single as a temporary disease, a defect caused by bad examples and go so far as to suggest you join the singles group at church to meet people. Prayers go up imploring God to guide you since no man is an island. Here’s a newsflash: Being single is a gift (1 cor.7:7)! God’s path for us who are single is to remain this way and for others God wants them to be married: different is good.

Not getting married doesn’t mean missing out nor does it mean we who follow Christ can share our what God gave us with whoever we please. The purpose we strive for will differ from single to single. Having a freedom to pursue this divinely given goal is reason enough to fight for being single.  It can be lonely and make even the stoutest single doubts, but I am here to encourage you to not allow loneliness to taint the life you live. You should never be with someone just to avoid emotions instead pursue ways to enjoy your hobbies with other people and make some new friends. Invite someone from work to hang out or take that class you’ve been eyeing.

I’ve seen marriages where loneliness wasn’t avoided but amplified. I’ve also seen how marriage has brought out the best in both people. Still I don’t want marry as I know myself  and what I want out of life, what God wants out of my life.  Being single  is a special gift given to strong believers because knowing who you are in Christ and as a person makes a target out the believer from the church and the world.  Think salmon swimming upstream.Singles have figured aspects of their lives out because they take the time to minimize distractions. Most people I’ve met looking for a mate are distracted by past relationship let downs, crazy exes, and trying to impress the next guy/girl.

That’s my take. Let me know in the comments what you think!

Blessings and Peace,  Randa 🙂

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What’s That Smell-My Morning Meditation

Mediation is joy and the ways to feel such joy depends on the practitioner. I like sound when I can’t turn my mind off, yet I’ve been captivated by scent and not sound. Since discovering my inner tea lover just the smell of black tea is all I need to transport me to a safe place. Each morning can just mesh with the day, no real start just that I woke up. That changed this past week as I discovered the value of silence.

Getting up early is a chore I’ve struggled with my whole life yet has a higher value now. At 6:30 I get my tea ready and while it steeps I let myself ignore the clock, the fact I have to be at work soon and generate a mental barrier between me and the world. For 30 minutes it’s me accompanied by golden silence. Once I begin to drink the tea I focus on my breath emptying my mind to create a clean slate for the busyness of the day ahead.  Reading my devotional bible I use this time to pray seeking guidance for the day. Just this much “me time” is enough. This is my meditation practice now. I wonder what changes await me in the next evolution?

However you mediate, celebrate your journey by giving into what gives you joy! Walk and meditate, journal and mediate; use essential oils, sit in the sun… whatever moves you.

Let me know how your practice has grown in the comments or on any of my social media links! I would love to hear from you.

Blessing and Peace-Randa 🙂

Evict Fear

 

This will sound stupid, but I’ve never taken a walk around my neighborhood by myself. Being super private I  don’t even walk in the park because I feel enormous pressure to greet fellow walkers. Stupid right? Wound up from a call I received today, I took that brave step and walked around the block for 15 minutes. Thanks to my phone I have evidence of this fact with a few milestone trophy’s- the game is on! Join me today and take one step in evicting fear from an area in your life!

Worried I would be spotted I hesitated on the porch fiddling with my phone.  Now I want to scream at my past self, “GET MOVING!” After walking I was awake, more awake than I’ve been in weeks. Don’t sit down on your fears. Face them and conquer them starting today as life is terribly short. Wallowing in fear won’t cripple you, it will make you a Ripper victim. Whatever you think is on the other side of door #2 isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning. 

Right now, grab a pen and some paper, we’re going to play the “What-If Game”. Write you fear on the top with a fierce underline: imagine you’re crossing it of existence. Now write what-if statements like, “What if I do succeed”, “What if I do get that promotion”, and “What if my book is accepted”. Keep going and tape your list where you’ll see it when you’ve finished. Post the list on your social media as well and ask your friends to play along.

Leave a comment if you liked what you read and make sure to check out Meditated Faith on Facebook. Post your “What-If” list I would love to see it. 

Blessing and Peace- Randa 🙂

 

Why Clutter is Killing You

Besides obvious clutter around our homes, there is hidden clutter– messes even the neatest of neat freaks miss every day. These messes are chameleons blending into our routines and hiding right under our noses. No, it’s not dirty dishes or that box of old clothes, it’s your thoughts, fears, and the illusions you cast around yourself while you suffer behind the curtain. Clutter of the soul and mind derail us just as we think we’ve cleaned our spiritual house.We can keep repeating the vicious cycle or let God step in.

Sadly, we only notice a relationship in trouble after a fight, not before. We only notice were out of storage right as we go to take a perfect photo. You see where I’m going. Why should you care? The answer is simple: true happiness and peace of mind. Small is big when it comes to being outrageously happy and that means you must know yourself as well as a human can. Allowing deep-seated issues to clutter up your life leads to regret; regret chains us to our past, stealing our futures.

 In Christ, we are new creations not burden with the sin debt of our past. Our future is wide open, filled with second chances and yet we still don’t understand how the transformation works. To stop living in illusion we have to be changed from the inside out. Imagine inside all of us is a vast landscape filled with, aptly called, inner demons that taunt and goad us to admit defeat. In response, we hold on white knuckled generating an outer image of “okay” and “at peace” when we are far from either.

Dispelling illusions are easy as were not alone. God is aware of every need you have and every issue you have. Nor will He manipulate you because of your sin because He longs to be close to us, to heal us. To have a deeply committed relationship with us. His thoughts about you are all love and wanting to heal you of any hurts because small is big.

Blessing and Peace-Randa 🙂

Separate to Grow Closer

Separation anxiety affects mostly children yet teens up to age 18 (about 4-5 percent) can suffer as well. This type of anxiety is described as different” from normal clinginess. Children with the disorder can’t think about anything but the present fear of separation. They may have nightmares or regular physical complaints. ”  I’m sure each of us has experienced the panic or have had pets who made us furious because of their anxiety (separation anxiety can affect pets). However, I challenge you to re-think what separation anxiety means in your own life. What or who is keeping you from growing?  What lifestyle choices always pull up back in? Maybe it’s time to learn to separate and see you can stand on your own two feet.

As stated in a previous post, I know soda is bad for me.I’ve separated myself, but withdraw is painful. What comes to mind when you think about an area of your own life where you need to separate but pain will be involved? Sadly, our tribe, as its said nowadays, is a sum of who are or want to become. Thus, it pays to be careful who has access to your emotional currency and time. Both can bankrupt you when relationship boundaries are not clear. Separation is the answer for both parties to establish or reinforce boundaries if this is the case. Taking time out of the relationship does not mean your done, it means you care enough about the other person to work on yourself. To heal mentally from past damage to create a stronger relationship when reunited. As a disclaimer: I am not an expert but this method has worked for me in the past. Let prayer be your guide on any decision. 

Removing obstacles in our way to an abundant life using separation reveals true motivation hidden in our decision-making processes and lifestyle choices.  While researching for this post, I discovered I suffered from separation anxiety as a child when I thought I just loved my dad that much. Which is strange because we never really got along. A classic example of reveling true motive is with eating. Food becomes a place of comfort, not nourishment making the root of weight gain a distorted attitude toward food, not gluttony. The movie Tron: Legacy has a quote that sums up why  separating ourselves isn’t a punishment, but a retreat: “Take yourself of the equation.”  This means our answers to our problem is to separate from our regular pattern, to voluntarily take a step back. Again, we’re not giving up we’re trying to fix what is wrong- become objective. Be open to getting advice from trusted sources and pray about the areas we may have contributed to our own misery.

I haven’t met one person who enjoys being miserable and I’m sure you don’t want to be either. So in closing, I encourage you to “take yourself of the equation.” Create distance from what troubles you to get a battle plan together. I understand with people it can be hard to do so in that case, go on a weekend trip or visit family you haven’t seen in a while who can help you decide what to do next. You don’t have to spend 40 years in a desert to change your life. Embrace your anxiety to root out why blank causes you to be abnormally fearful of making changes. What has running gotten you that facing down your inner demons won’t? Distance will feel lonely but take comfort that no distance can separate from the love of Christ.

Blessings and Peace- Randa 🙂 

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Learning How To Fail

failFailure. I hate using the word in relation to anything, but the reality is we all fail. I’ve failed in many instances from jobs to personal achievement I set out to accomplish with my whole heart. What I know to be true from my failures is that I learned a life lesson while also learning how to accept grace. Accepting we have a second chance is harder than putting in action life lessons. We are looking for the catch, for the other shoe to drop: we condition ourselves to accept failure. With a lesson, we can make continuous adjustments like an experiment, but with grace its too simple.

Grace is defined as “the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.” This means no work on my part is involved- a concept modern people are conditioned to resist. Everywhere we turn slogans like “Just do it!“, “Get it done!“, “The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.” This concept isn’t bad but it can be when isolated from grace. Focusing on what holds us back or caused us to stumble only magnifies the failure. How many occasions come to mind where adjusting your approach made you want to quit because all you focused on was what went wrong?

Once I worked as a leasing agent where occupancy numbers ruled the roost even if that meant not moving someone out on time to keep numbers high. My boss was always on point with corporate when it came to every percentage. That was great because it meant we were off the radar, yet it made me feel all the more a dirty salesman during slow times. When our slow seasons kicked in I felt like a failure since my words and testimonials from current residents didn’t convince them to want to live there. Not to mention a constant battle combating what past residents who didn’t get their way would post on our social media pages. Trying various ways to highlight community benefits and move in special was exhausting. There was no grace, it was my fault, my problem to fix- a challenge. A challenge I grew tired of fast.

A sad fact is failure can be a permanent resident with no respect for the other emotions dwelling inside us. Honestly, I still fight for that balance because of my sales experience; this feeling I’ve failed follows me to others areas of my life daily. Join me in  keeping the faith and fighting your personal battle because “His grace is renewed every day.” Christ sacrifice is my daily reminder I can overcome this since His grace covers me.  Because His grace covers me I can ask for His wisdom, I can have a partner in the process, a healer of old wounds. As a parting note: maybe what we see as “failure” is really Christ calling us out and into the life He has planned for us. That’s my hope anyway.

Blessings and Peace-Randa:)