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In Defense of Being Single.

“You’ll change your mind when you meet the One.”, “You don’t want kids? That will change when you get married.”, “You don’t want to be alone do you?”,  and many other varieties of these phrases have been hurled at me since I’ve decided to stay single. And NO, I’m not choosing to stay single until my “prince” comes because God has prepared us both for the great journey of marriage. I choose to stay single because I want to.  If there is anyone out there like me I’m writing this to encourage the single to stay strong when well-meaning people offer their “advice”.

Family, friends, co-workers, etc. can’t help themselves because they don’t understand that singleness  isn’t a curse. They see single as a temporary disease, a defect caused by bad examples and go so far as to suggest you join the singles group at church to meet people. Prayers go up imploring God to guide you since no man is an island. Here’s a newsflash: Being single is a gift (1 cor.7:7)! God’s path for us who are single is to remain this way and for others God wants them to be married: different is good.

Not getting married doesn’t mean missing out nor does it mean we who follow Christ can share our what God gave us with whoever we please. The purpose we strive for will differ from single to single. Having a freedom to pursue this divinely given goal is reason enough to fight for being single.  It can be lonely and make even the stoutest single doubts, but I am here to encourage you to not allow loneliness to taint the life you live. You should never be with someone just to avoid emotions instead pursue ways to enjoy your hobbies with other people and make some new friends. Invite someone from work to hang out or take that class you’ve been eyeing.

I’ve seen marriages where loneliness wasn’t avoided but amplified. I’ve also seen how marriage has brought out the best in both people. Still I don’t want marry as I know myself  and what I want out of life, what God wants out of my life.  Being single  is a special gift given to strong believers because knowing who you are in Christ and as a person makes a target out the believer from the church and the world.  Think salmon swimming upstream.Singles have figured aspects of their lives out because they take the time to minimize distractions. Most people I’ve met looking for a mate are distracted by past relationship let downs, crazy exes, and trying to impress the next guy/girl.

That’s my take. Let me know in the comments what you think!

Blessings and Peace,  Randa 🙂

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What’s That Smell-My Morning Meditation

Mediation is joy and the ways to feel such joy depends on the practitioner. I like sound when I can’t turn my mind off, yet I’ve been captivated by scent and not sound. Since discovering my inner tea lover just the smell of black tea is all I need to transport me to a safe place. Each morning can just mesh with the day, no real start just that I woke up. That changed this past week as I discovered the value of silence.

Getting up early is a chore I’ve struggled with my whole life yet has a higher value now. At 6:30 I get my tea ready and while it steeps I let myself ignore the clock, the fact I have to be at work soon and generate a mental barrier between me and the world. For 30 minutes it’s me accompanied by golden silence. Once I begin to drink the tea I focus on my breath emptying my mind to create a clean slate for the busyness of the day ahead.  Reading my devotional bible I use this time to pray seeking guidance for the day. Just this much “me time” is enough. This is my meditation practice now. I wonder what changes await me in the next evolution?

However you mediate, celebrate your journey by giving into what gives you joy! Walk and meditate, journal and mediate; use essential oils, sit in the sun… whatever moves you.

Let me know how your practice has grown in the comments or on any of my social media links! I would love to hear from you.

Blessing and Peace-Randa 🙂

Spiritual Fitness Trackers

Getting in shape has never been as difficult as it is now. There are over 100 trackers to choose from based on “science” a company has performed to recommend themselves. Yet, how can we track if our faith is growing? Just like a review on a website for a fitness tracker is our review of our faith in Christ influencing others? Imagine getting an email showing in a chart how your faith increased or impacted others. It would be terrifying and wonderful to know how I’m doing faith wise, what do you think?

Much like a bullet journal is a great way to help track good habits, how we respond to stressful situations is one way to track our faith. I know I have a ways to go when my first reaction to a red light is…well, it’s not something I can write on here.  A secondary reaction I use is just shutting down emotionally to avoid a situation until I feel ready. Tracking my reactions I’d say I rely on my own strength too much and use Christ power as a backup generator.  Who doesn’t want to be superhero right? Only as humans we have many weakness to zap our powers.

Track It Mediation

Pray for light to remove shadows and invade the darkness to better track spiritual growth.

From there embrace the best you can what you are shown. Stay as long as you want focusing on your inhale and exhale. If a pattern of behavior stands out make that your intention for the week. Let there be a week when you dismantle a stronghold  in how you live your live.Day by day track the times you choose to take a different course of action.

End by praising God for working through you as you begin to change, ask Him to guide you.

P.S  Leave a comment below with how you track your spiritual growth. You can contact me on Facebook, and  on google+.

Blessing and Peace, Randa 🙂

Thriving in Uncertainty

This past week working at my temp job interviewing people about taxes (filing status, what forms they had, any dependents?, EIC/Child Tax Credit questions..etc.) my anxiety was ramped up to a 10 because I don’t know anything about taxes and have to leave hundreds of yellow stickies for the tax prepper. Regarding my faith in Christ, this is an accurate representation of how most of us feel:  All questions with no answers, but learning enough to get by. In short, the Christian life is a minefield.

Because of this minefield, we stay grounded by prayer. We keep the faith the light we hold in front of us will lead us to our purpose as shadows of our doubts and questions close in on us. Still, we walk boldly trusting God to give us what we need to survive, the words to say, plus courage to keep going.  Below are some methods I use when my questions out weigh the answers.

Not running from the uncertainty:

Christianity isn’t an exercise in blind faith, but a faith emboldened by our questions. Just like when you interview for a job you’re supposed to have questions to show you want the job. I love to ask questions when I read a passage in the bible just to have a deeper understanding of what I read. Even when I was mad at God a few years ago I was asking questions and seeking answers.

Trusting what I know:

I don’t know everything nor do I understand everything.  But what I do know and understand is enough for me; the basics of my faith in Christ gives me a strong foundation when I fall down (through my own accord or because life hit me with a tidal wave).  Christ loves me no matter how stupid or disloyal I can be, I am known by name by the creator of the universe, He is always there when I call to Him in prayer, He prays for me from Heavenly places, and  I have eternal value.

All He asks of me to obey Him and love Him in return- the best part is its FREE! Because of Christ sacrifice, I am set FREE and His love is a GIFT to all who will accept Him as their savior.

Reading:

I read anything I can get my hands on. I love to read out of any activity you can think of, so much a co-worker noticed I was reading in my car and now we are thinking about book swapping. We even read similar books genres! My point is, books (non-fiction or fiction) are my way of elevating my soul out of the muck when I  don’t know what’s coming next. It reminds me there is a happy ending awaiting me in this chapter of my life.

 

 

 

#1 Life Hack to lasting Change: Hard Work

I hate lifehack articles or 10 way to ­­­_______.  It makes us think we missed something in our quest for a better life, but the truth is there’s no secret. No miracle or magic that will take your day-to-day from blah to brilliant. Nothing but choosing to keep going will keep your momentum from going out when you realize a 10 step program isn’t going to get you out of being lazy.

This is where I find myself lately as I’ve sought out changing how I live out my life at work, at home, and in my spirit. I can go days without reading the bible, give up soda for two hours, do yoga every night for just a few days until I don’t.  After the past, few weeks I’ve realized I’ve been living as if life really could be hacked instead of lived. I’ve also seen how the only way to beat the hyper-reality of life 2.0 is to first take some responsibility then stop avoiding your goal. Because that’s the secret, just to do it. Even if your crawling JUST DO IT!

And no, I’m not quoting Nike. I’m saying own up to YOUR part in why you’re not happy, why you haven’t reached the stars you planned to reach. I’m asking you to delete the slang (You’re a boss! YOLO! for example) and dump the 10 step for the old-fashioned approach: choosing every day to continue out of your Egypt into the promised land God has for you. Life is not hackable because shortcuts are a direct route to trouble.

Rock Your Wednesday!


If no one else gives you a trophy for making it to Wednesday, I will! You made it and you deserve to know what a feat that is. Even if you work weekends like me (blogging or temping), there is a driving force pushing you toward a full day of rest. A day full of bliss. Keep reading to find out ways to keep your momentum and cross the finish line on Friday.

Rock Hour 

Create a playlist to listen to on your break. Pack it full of tracks that inspire, uplift, or energize- whatever you want.  Music has been proven to help productivity among other work related issues, so don’t forget to include your personal anthem!

Swap out 

After working all day I have a nasty habit of bringing home every task I need to complete or forgot and dreading what surprises lurk ahead. To combat these trains of thought, I bring with me a shirt I can change into or my Cabela’s pullover so I  signal a shift in my physical world from “Get It Done” mode to “Relax” mode. Choose one item that is causal, it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of running shoes, headband, or a pair of jeans. Simply make a conscious shift to set yourself up for a goodnights sleep.

Visual Meditation

Meditate- simply make this a habit for each day of the week to plant seeds of courage to tackle any challenge thrown your way. As you focus on the breath visualize your place of work and see yourself conquering each task with ease. Counter each emotion you normally feel, such as nerves, with the opposite. Just like planning ahead for a trip, do the same for your day.

How do you #rockyourweek? 

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Blessing and Peace- Randa:)

How to be a Minimalist.

Loss and  Downsizing have been married for years sewing seeds of chaos in hearts around the world!  Seeing their destruction,  they set out to heal wounds and ease the pain of those affected by giving birth to MinimalismI’ve bought into the movement recently with a full-scale launch attacking each room and weeding out books, clothes, sentimental junk..etc. My experience so far has been proof I don’t know how to let go. While weeding out books to donate, I kept a book just because of the smell- a musty mix of ink and time perfectly blended. Looking over at bags for donation or dumpster, I thought about where my treasure really is: in heaven or on earth? I thought about what matters to me most.

Minimalism’s core isn’t tossing out all your treasured belongings. You’re eliminating the physical manifestations that success is how much you have. Another personality trait to describe minimalism is how counter-cultural its views are. Instead of success being a new car minimalism suggests we clean the car we have and get new speakers. Easy ways to enhance while saving you the headache of a car loan. Not distracted by an ever-changing standard of happiness, our treasure in heaven is easier to invest in. Kindness, love, peace, and joy are easier to express when we’re not striving to afford what we know we can’t afford.  This doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy life! It just means let God be God in your life and not things.

Here are few ways to start living like a minimalist:

  1. Do a monthly inventory.
  2. Start a donate box.
  3. Track your spending every week.
  4. Start a gratitude journal.
  5. Do a social detox.
  6. Plan your weekends ahead of time.
  7. Clean out apps from your phone you don’t use.
  8. Start slowly with “quality over quantity “as your motto.

How have you embraced Minimalism in your life?  Let me know via social media or leave a comment by clicking the link at the top.

Blessings and Peace-Randa 🙂